Posts Tagged ‘wedding’

This is my fourth Valentine’s Day with my husband, Daniel.  We were married May of 2006, and dated off an on since November 2004.  I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge this man and how much I love him.

He went from having one child and a quaint life to being the head of a household of then 4 kids, his – the youngest.  He went through the trials of me and my daughter before she moved out.  He went through the trials of one of my son’s just not truly engaging in school and feeling lost.  He continues to go through my youngest’s mental health issues.  Although sometimes he says it’s about all he can take – he continues on.  I respect and admire this man who took on so much when he had the slow and calm life before.

With all of the issues my husband has dealt with by marrying me, I’ve given him the three most important *beings* in my life.  My children.  It’s a gift I would not have given to just anyone.  Although there is drama – there is more love than someone could ever imagine if they were not living it.

He has provided for us, loved us, and generally put up with us.  That’s quite amazing.  On the other side… I’ve put up with him as well.  That’s marriage and it’s what we signed up for.  I’ve been so busy with work, sleep (boy I’m tired!) and Stephen – that I haven’t had much time for my hubby.  We are making time tomorrow which will be wonderful, even though it’s storming.  Hey, storms are romantic.

While we venture closer to our wedding anniversary I can honestly say it’s been a wonderful ride.  I love him very much and thought I’d tell him here as well as together tomorrow for Valentines Day.

He sent me flowers to my job today.  I got to put the beautiful roses in my cubbie and feel loved publicly.  Very nice indeed.

I love you Daniel, thank you for taking on this adventure with me.  Happy Valentines Day.

Love,

Monnie

According to Wikipedia marriage is:

“Marriage is a personal union of individuals. This union may also be called matrimony, while the ceremony that marks its beginning is called a wedding and the status created is sometimes called wedlock.”

According to Monica, marriage is:

“An agreement by two people (no, I DON’T care if it’s same sex fer cryin’ out loud!  that dispute is getting old to me… sheesh):

• combine assets,
• allow the other full access to your heart (yes, even the potential to hurt one another),
• publicly announce you are taken (jeeze, this one was like putting out an announcement in the paper – or maybe we should have),
• to love the other one – even when you are angrier than a bull getting messed with by a guy with a red blanket,
• to not leave or announce DIVORCE ’cause you just can’t take it anymore
• to respect eachother’s lives (yes, we actually DO still have our own lives)
• to deal with the other’s families, even if you aren’t sure why they do what they do (not my hubbies family ofcourse)

to learn, to love, through sickness and health – ’till death do us part kinda thing”

So, after having our 2 year wedding anniversary I can say we’ve done all of the above.

What is a marriage that works?  To me, it’s one you keep working on.

I was married once before, so was he.  His lasted longer than mine… mine lasted all of 6 years.  Enough time to have my beautiful children and thank my ex-husband for the time I had with him.  It wasn’t a pretty breakup, but very quiet – we just gave up.

Daniel and I work hard sometimes on our marriage.  He came in to a family – me and three children.  I took on him and his son.  He is a neat freak, I’m messier than all heck.  He is a perfectionist with money… me?  Well… I have some and my kids are fed and I was always able to pay the bills and keep what I had, that’s all that mattered to me.

We are so different in so many ways.  SO many ways.  I talk to my ex-boyfriend once in awhile, he talks to his ex-wife almost daily.  His ex-girlfriend reads my blog, my ex-boyfriend reads my MySpace.

He is a great provider, a wonderful step-father, and great other things. 

So what do I feel today that’s different than when he and I first started this relationship?  I feel secure, happy, and at peace.

There are days when both of us wonder “what next?”.

Today we just get to *be*.

I love my husband and am glad we fought so hard to be together.  We each left people with broken hearts to come together.  They just weren’t the ones we were to share our lives with.

According to Monica ~ Marriage:  A Union of Two Spirits that Chose to Come Together In This Life to Learn with Eachother

~Monica~

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Happily updated by: monicaford.

This was taken before my friend’s wedding. The boy is my step son Daniel and the little girl is his sister.

Something about this photo makes me feel not only like a child, but so peaceful.

Water reminds me of life.

Children remind me of life.

So to me, this is a photo of life.

Love and Light,

Mon

Eating Cake at the After Wedding Party
Happily updated by: monicaford.

This was from the party after we ran away and got married. We BOTH ended up with alot of cake in the face!

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Happily updated by: monicaford.

This photo is of my step son Daniel. At his mother’s wedding this weekend he was in an absolutely awesome suit!

Is he or is he not absolutely handsome!

Love and Light,

Monica

Mr. and Mrs. Montgomery
Happily updated by: monicaford.

My best friend got married. I did over 400 pics for them……. whooo hooo! It was a beautiful ceremony… a beautiful day.

Congratulations Dawn. You are a beautiful bride and best friend.

Love you!

Monica

Although we’ve been "with" eachother since 11/2004 – we were married on 5/20/2006!  So, ’tis our one year anniversary!  Oh my gosh we had a blast.  Daniel told me we were going for a drive.  A drive we did up to Napa Valley and into Calistoga California.

We walked around Lincoln Ave in Calistoga and had some fun sites!  There was the "wind fun" guy, the old cars AND the beautiful architecture. 

But his surprise was when we walked into the Lavender Hills Spa!  We had a seaweed bath, facial of sorts, and an hour massage.  Hello?!  What a guy!

I love you honey, and happy first anniversary and looking forward to many many more.

Love and Light,

Mon (enjoy the pics!)

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The Wind Things Man

He was a very colorful guy and very happy!  I just had to put this pic in here. 

The Price of Living There (well, nice parcel!)

The price on this is $2,850,000USD.  Daniel and I were talking about retiring there – but um, the businesses will need to pick up a bit. 

The downtown

The Architecture

I’m now officially Monica Ford.  Wow!  Pictures to come up
shortly.

First of all, the whole weekend I was on cloud nine…
well, except Saturday before the wedding I couldn’t dress myself (but
had to!), couldn’t do my hair (but had to!), couldn’t get the dress on
or off (now THAT was funny!).  And was ready to cry and laugh
hysterically the whole time!

Remember it was just he and I up
there.  I NOW know the benefit of having bridesmaids etc.  It was a
comedy in my dressing room and now one there to giggle but me. 
Really, ya’ll should have been there!

So I text messaged him 15
times asking him to come help… but ofcourse, that’s not right (except
I was STUCK in the dress) but he didn’t get ANY of the msgs because he
was in the Casino.  LOL

Okay, next he got up there and we
went to the Chapel.  I was a nervous wreck by that time… I’ll go
into this a bit more but I actually spurted a laugh when we were saying
our vows.  I was that nervous!  I just felt like I was going
to either uncontrollably start crying or uncontrollably start
laughing… ARGH!  Puhlease!  It was a little giggle, but still! 
I think the minister probobly thought I was on something. 

Daniel and I are always laughing and making jokes, so I had this
horrid image of him making a face in the middle of me saying my "I
do’s".  Thing is, afterwards he told me he was going to. 
Booger.

Everything was perfect.  Even the giggle and the
dress that held me captive.  Daniel is the most wonderful man I
could have ever wanted to be with.  I love him more than words on this
blog could ever say.  I hope to make him a very happy man for the
rest of our lives. 

We are married!

~Monica Ford~

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… something borrowed, something blue …

Remember that
saying?

Well… the borrowed part is the dress I’ll be
wearing!  I absolutely love it!  Get this, I was frantic last night
getting my hair colored and trimmed and I mentioned to my stylist that I
didn’t even have a dress yet… she asked my size, I gave it to her
(AHA!  thought I’d say that here eh?!  heh) and she said her
daughter was the SAME size and got married just this past November and that
her dress was VERY pretty.  She called her daughter who said no
problem and brought me the dress and shoes that match today!  I
tried them on and it looked wonderful!

The dress is perfect! 
And I have to say thank you SO SO much to Shawna and Sally at Elements
Salon.  You two are absolutely LIFE savers!  I can’t wait to
wear it and get pics!

Okay, so I rushed to the shopping mall
and got Daniel’s ring.  It had to be sized for him, and it was ready
right on time.  Thank YOU Helzberg Diamonds at Stoneridge
Mall.  That’s where Daniel bought my rings and we made sure we went back
for his.  So THAT’S done.

Nails and Pedicure tomorrow AM at
Discovery Nails and then PACK like a mad woman!

I can’t wait to
say "I Do!".

I love you Daniel, always and forever… in
all of this hectic running around this week, the more excited I grew to
be with you.  You are the most wonderful man in the world… I
love you Babe.

~M

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