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I’ve always expressed how I’m feeling and what I want through music, although I don’t recommend anyone listening to all of these at once ( ) it’s just how I’m feeling now.

It’s been almost another year of my marriage to Daniel.  We were married in May of 2006.  So… that’s 3 years! During our three years we’ve had ups, downs, side-to-sides (LOL) etc.  I guess that means we are normal.  Whoot!

Here’s my thoughts on Marriage, and remember it’s coming from a gal that said:

“I’m never gonna get married again!”

1.  When the hubby says “nothing is wrong” – leave it be.  If the hubby wants to discuss his issue, he will – when he’s ready.  Remember, it’s *his* issue – not yours.

2.  When the wifey is angry at the hubby and refuses to explain in detail what has upset her, how to correct it – if it should be corrected, what it means to her – then expect that same issue to come creeping up again.  How will the hubby know if you just “expect” the hubby to figure it out?  Wifey didn’t marry a mind reader – nor did she marry a woman – he’s a man, explain it all in detail!  Remember – it’s wifey’s issue not his.

3.  Give love – Give respect – Give thanks always when you think of it.  How will it come back to you if it’s not given?

4.  Remember why you fell in love with him – it brings a smile to your face each time.

5.  If wifey comes home in a great mood and he doesn’t – ignore it (see #1) – maybe wifey’s happiness will leak out into the space around him

6.  If hubby is in a great mood and wifey doesn’t feel like smiling – rub on him – (LOL) maybe it will wear off on wifey (see #4)

7.  Remember – always – love is beautiful and haggard looking at times, be thankful you are partners and you picked the best one for you.

Well, I for one am thankful and I’m learning as I go how to be a partner instead of an independent.  Are there any thoughts anyone else has?  Any lists you may have to deal with a partner or a spouse?

Love and Light and happy Spring Flowers on Earth Day!

I’m not sure if I’m allowed to show a photo of this.. .but my hubby bought me the most AWESOME necklace!  I love it love it love it!  I’ve been heavy into my jewelry lately (not that I have alot).  I’m lovin’ dressing up for work.

Anyway, my dearest brought home a necklace and although I want to show you a photo – I don’t have permission to take a photo from her site and I don’t have good enough lighting to take a photo of it on my own.  So – here’s the link if you are interested in seeing this!

The Lillian Todaro Collections – http://www.lilliantodaro.com/fantasy/index.html

The one he bought me is “7007 Titania – Queen of the Fairies Necklace”.  Oh you’ve got to tell me what you think!  I love it!!  It’s heavy enough to let you know it’s there, but NOT too heavy.  The colors are beautiful and the beads make the colors jump out at you!  I’m thinking I need a few more!  Hint… hint honey!

This is my fourth Valentine’s Day with my husband, Daniel.  We were married May of 2006, and dated off an on since November 2004.  I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge this man and how much I love him.

He went from having one child and a quaint life to being the head of a household of then 4 kids, his – the youngest.  He went through the trials of me and my daughter before she moved out.  He went through the trials of one of my son’s just not truly engaging in school and feeling lost.  He continues to go through my youngest’s mental health issues.  Although sometimes he says it’s about all he can take – he continues on.  I respect and admire this man who took on so much when he had the slow and calm life before.

With all of the issues my husband has dealt with by marrying me, I’ve given him the three most important *beings* in my life.  My children.  It’s a gift I would not have given to just anyone.  Although there is drama – there is more love than someone could ever imagine if they were not living it.

He has provided for us, loved us, and generally put up with us.  That’s quite amazing.  On the other side… I’ve put up with him as well.  That’s marriage and it’s what we signed up for.  I’ve been so busy with work, sleep (boy I’m tired!) and Stephen – that I haven’t had much time for my hubby.  We are making time tomorrow which will be wonderful, even though it’s storming.  Hey, storms are romantic.

While we venture closer to our wedding anniversary I can honestly say it’s been a wonderful ride.  I love him very much and thought I’d tell him here as well as together tomorrow for Valentines Day.

He sent me flowers to my job today.  I got to put the beautiful roses in my cubbie and feel loved publicly.  Very nice indeed.

I love you Daniel, thank you for taking on this adventure with me.  Happy Valentines Day.

Love,

Monnie

I don’t know if any of you have ever seen this, but I would like to say I have NEVER seen my husband laugh so hard as when he watched this video on his iphone.  He was in bed, turning red in hysterics.  I do believe he even went purple.  Tears down the checks – everything.

It’s such a simple video!

For your pleasure – I present to you

The Sneezing Panda

The last post I did I said my hubby had a surprise for me.  He certainly did!

I was instructed to be in my car at 9:00 AM on Thursday and call him for further instructions.

I called as I was pulling out of the driveway and he told me to go to my best friend’s house and to find her.

Find her?

Was this a scavenger hunt?

No!

I got there and my Dawn (my bestest friend), her momma (Doris – from New York), and her brother’s wifey (Renee – also from New York) were there waiting for me.  Here’s the gist!

My honey paid for me, and part of Doris and part of Renee to go to a Spa in Calistoga!  We went Thursday, spent the night there and then Friday had – check this out, a MUD BATH, mineral spa, hour massage, and facial!

Oh.  My.  Goodness.

Girls could have no more fun – oh, we did ofcourse tour Calistoga and shop like the ladies we are!

The mud bath was oh so stinky!  Smelled like sulfer and was so HOT!  Dawn and I shared a room and adjoining mud baths and had a few mud tosses at eachother.  Then showed after and got into the mineral spa.  Oh so much heaven!

The massage was to die for!  And the facial?  Oh I was shinin’ – in a good way.

It was wonderful – and for the gals from upstate New York – getting away from the 30 below was a good thing!

I didn’t get to take pics, we were too busy and to stop for photos wasn’t on the overall agenda.  BUT I did get a good one of Dawn, her momma and her sister-in-law!

Are they happy or what?!

We went to the Calistoga Golden Haven Hot Springs.  They treated us like queens and what more can you ask for?  I’d recommend them any day.  I’ve also been to Lavender Hills in Calistoga, very nice as well!  Just in case any of you would like to take a day for a spa treatment!

So that was my surprise.

Today is Doris’ birthday and her and Renee are leaving to New York in the morning.  I’ll miss them both.

Thank you dearest hubby.  You sure know how to treat your lady.

Well let us see how last night went shall we?

I was trying to get this blog in some kinda order after changing hosts. I have a temporary Wordpress Theme up, but I like how it’s situated. Just not the colors or lack thereof. But, when I went to have fun and change stuff around the most HUGEST (is that a word?) headache hit like a ton of bricks. Oh my goodness. Then, it was so bad I felt sick. So, off the computer I went and straight to bed.

Then, the hubby comes home – bless his heart. Dotting all over me and taking care of me like the wonderful hubby he is. We watched Ghost Whisperer Season Two Disc Two – one or two episodes and I was done. I had a pounding headache and felt like crud.

Then, we got into an argument. A new one? No… more of the same thing. It didn’t end well so this morning I got on the phone and told him I was sorry. Lordy. Lordy. Being married means so many things, but one thing it means is ya can’t get away from them. LOL So you better make up.

Making up is fun actually. He’s been so wonderful lately, I guess feeling sick mixed with other stuff just set me off. No bigge – we *kissed* and made up so to speak.

It’s been rough here. He’s working so hard and my client base has dwindled due to so many things. So I’m barely making it financially. Which means, he’s doing all the work. I’m at home taking care of the house, making sure my kids get all their school stuff done, and working on the clients I have left – ’cause I love them and am very grateful to have them.

My kids are both in Independent Study now. It’s like homeschooling really. I have their schedule every day of what they need to do, I meet with their teacher once a week to get more work for them and turn in their assignments (rather, they do that – I take notes). BUT their report cards came in! WOW! It’s the biggest improvement I’ve ever seen from them. They are so proud! So is this momma.

So my husband is working away while I’m doing all of these things that are important – but, what happened to me holding my own financially? I was the sole supporter for over 10 years now I’m home? It’s a huge adjustment.

I’m starting school on the 20th of this month. I’m almost embarassed to say what for ’cause I’ve been laughed at a few times. But I’ll say it here – and let me be very clear this is what I had wanted since I was young, but babies etc. well… you know what happens to plans when you have the little ones. Okay, my major is Physics. Yes, laugh all ya want. Who knows I could change my mind. I’m already an Accountant, this would be a complete career change that will take YEARS to get to. But there are some really neat opportunities just in the first year of being an undergraduate! No laughing… okay, you can laugh. We’ll see how far this goes, but at least I can go for it!

In February I’ll be 41 years old/young. I’m so extremely excited about my 40s! It’s me time after my Stephen is graduated in June of 2010. That’s not that far away. Jimmy goes into the USMC on June 14th, and my daughter is already out and on her own. I do have my Step Son Daniel that will be 14 (OMG!) on the 11th of this month, but his momma does all the hard work with him. I just get to love him to death when we get him. So I’m almost done… wow.

Many things are going on now in my life – I just want to be sure I enjoy ever moment of it you know?

Wow, life is Grand!

Harold Ford 2/19/1938 - 10/27/2007

I didn’t know what else to call this post, but I do have to say I don’t feel like we are completely without him you know?  I always seem to catch a fragrance (smoke), hear a laugh, or something to remind us of him – he’s still very much around.

That’s my belief, take it or leave it – but it’s really a knowing.  Harold loves us mucho.  The old “coot” said he’d haunt us, so why not? 

Harold died of cancer on this day in 2007.  So many of us where effected in so many ways, too many to imagine.

My husband – oh to lose your father, I cannot begin to imagine.

My kids, who only where around him for a few years – were very effected and it broke my heart watching them grieve.

His grandchildren – what can you say to that grief?

Friends, Family – all of us where touched in so many different ways by him.

He’s wasn’t some sweet little old guy though.  Nope.  Well, not on the outside… he was a burly kinda rough Navy kinda guy.  He’s tell you to “kiss off” quite quickly and the next breath laugh his butt off if you tripped and fell.  You just had to shake your head and laugh at him.  He always lived life being truthful to who he was and not worrying what others thought.

I miss you Harold, and as of today… one year after you ditched your 3 dimensional body for a beautiful light spirity one – I have not smoked for over 10 days.  Ha!

I miss you miss you miss you.

So does your son, in such a huge way……

Love and Light,

Your “Honorary Daughter”

For You Harold – A Soft Goodbye

Faerie

So alot of you know I’m a smoker right?  Well, along with working on my QuickBooks v2008 certification this weekend, I just stopped smokin’.  I had one in my hand on Friday at 11 AM and had smoked a puff or two and then, well… I don’t know exactly what happened really.  I just turned around, put it out and then threw away all of my cigs, lighters etc.

I’m using the patch and the Nicorette Gum – so far, no smokey.

I apologize for not updating the site every day lately, I’ve been working really hard on getting my business movin’ along.    My Certification is important right now, and I’m 2/3 done.

Not smoking is making me sick.  I know, sounds funny huh?  But your body begins to clean itself up immediately after you stop smoking.  So now I’m coughing, can’t smell a thing (I could for a moment there the first day or so), and I’m so tired.

I wanted to come through and say howdy!

My husband went to the training this weekend and came back quite happy.

Maybe he was happy ’cause I didn’t smell like smoke.  Sure makes for kissin’ alot better.    hee hee

Love and Light all!

~Monica~

I’m still alive!  All is well!

I talked last week about my company and I have to say it’s taken over this whole week!

Dawn & Kids - Dawn's Wedding

Last weekend was awesome – I had a heart to heart with my step-son.  I felt like we had a bit of a wedge growing between us.  We did, as it turns out, and after talking to the little man, we are good to go.  The photo above is of my best friend Dawn (at her wedding ofcourse), my step-son Daniel and the little princess in the back is Marissa, Dawn’s Daughter.  Handsome guy huh?

One thing about my step-son he is extremely *empathic*.  He senses folks feelings – and I mean in a big way!  Trouble is, he can’t read me.  That makes him a bit nervous around me.  He said this, not me.  He’s very articulate!  I love that kid so flippin’ much.  I have a way of blocking my feelings from folks, it’s habitual.  I just didn’t mean to do it with him.  We had a great talk and I get to work on it – and he gets to work on talking about it when things bother him. 

But the whole rest of the week has been taken up by my business.  I went to that Networking group (wow, awesome group of professionals!), new clients, issues with a client’s QuickBooks file (argh!) and going through my certification for QuickBooks.

The certification is about 20 hours long.  It’s in depth and difficult at times, but it’s perfect to freshen up and let others know I know what I’m doin! 

QuickBooks Certified Pro-Advisor

Full week, I’m not done with my certification yet – I’ll be workin’ on that all weekend.

I will be working on the certification through Sunday.  My husband is gone this weekend to Utah for training at Impact Trainings (he is currently in Life Mastery Training 2) and I will be going in the next few weeks (finally! – Life Mastery Training 1).  If you are interested – it’s www.impacttrainings.com.

No hubby ’till Sunday!  … I couldn’t sleep last night ’cause he wasn’t in bed …

OH!  The foundation has been set on my Sanctuary!  I’m totally excited!  Here’s some pics!  Groundwork – it’s a 10×10 with 5′ entrance.  I designed it myself! As soon as it’s finished I can add my plants, fountain, etc.  Whoot!

Backyard Sanctuary

Backyard Sactuary - Foundation Set

The builder will be back this Saturday to put up the walls and set for the roof, or however that goes.

Love and Light folks, wish me luck on my Certification testing!

Here’s Indy – he sleeps on his back with his legs up, he’s such a GOOF!

Indiana Jones - Caught on his Back Again!