Amazing Writing – Please Read/Stumble/Comment

For those that don’t know – I have a child that has gone through depression, attempted suicide, told he was Bi-Polar – yadda yadda.  He leads a rough life at times.  But he’s not alone.  There are family members that each have to deal with their portion of his difficulties – mom, brothers, sister… etc.  We all deal with it in ways that are perfect for each of us.

We aren’t alone either, there are many many kids and their families that go through tough spots in life.  The families are sometimes the only ones standing strong for these kids because we know their true beauty and goodness inside.  Others, we find, steer clear because they don’t know how to deal with it.

I am asking that everyone Stumble this post if you do enjoy it – it is the wish of the teen that wrote this that others that may be in the same situation get some reality that they aren’t alone!

The following is a wonderful (tear jerker for me) poem that a teen wrote about his own experience as a brother (a twin brother no less) of a young man that is going through something very close to what my Stephen endures.

The following was given to many just to read, and those that could find themselves in his shoes have been praising the writing.  If you wouldn’t mind getting this out there for this young man (I will not name him unless his mother approves).  He wants others to know they aren’t alone!

It is okay to copy this to give to others, but you cannot copy and use it as your own.  Simply refer back to this post as the originator and that is fine.  Do not publish this unless you receive permission (just email me, I will ask the mother and the boy for you) through this site.

Again, please Stumble this or whatever way you can if you enjoy it.  This deserves to find it’s way to those that will benefit.

You Have To Be His Brother To Understand

What is it like to feel anger, broken-heartedness, and love at the same time?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to watch your brother constantly hurt your mom,
And feel no remorse,
Because he hardly understands what he’s doing at the time?
what is it like to have to sit there, and remain silent,
All while you witness both people suffering?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to see someone close to you,
Having already flown as high as they can get
Or so it seems?
Professionals say he can’t go any further,
But you pray to God he can.
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to witness someone you love,
Hurt to the point of tears because he feels he can’t make it?
What is it like to feel so much pain your body, heart, and mind,
Can hardly take it because you see your own brother’s life in shambles?
What is it like to hear people call your brother stupid?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to be the privileged brother,
Yet you watch his life spiral downward,
All as teachers have given up on him,
Saying he won’t amount to anything in this world,
Because he has trouble reading?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to have many true friends,
But your brother has next to none,
So he feels alone, even though you share yours,
But he knows that, he knows they’re yours,
It kills you because it’s killing him?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to love your brother,
With such a sense of protecting him because of his delicacy,
That your friends call you wrong because, you get angered at the
Slightest thing anyone says about your brother, at the times when
People laugh at him, you want to punch people’s lights out?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to see him depressed as he’s cycling through meds,
And most psychiatrists can’t help him because
they refuse to push aside their pride,
and so you watch him suffer because of their idiotic mistakes,
and it makes you so sad to see this situation unfold before your eyes?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to have the desire to tell him he’ll be o.k.,
He’ll make it no matter what anyone tells him,
He’ll spread his wings and fly much higher than anyone ever anticipated,
He’s always loved and prayed for by many people,
Yet you can’t muster up the courage to tell him because you’re afraid he’ll reject this statement of love?
You have to be his brother to understand.

What is it like to feel anger, broken-heartedness, and love at the same time?
You have to be his brother to understand.

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27 Responses to “Amazing Writing – Please Read/Stumble/Comment”

  • I don’t believe there are words enough to express my feelings.
    I come from a family entrenched in depression, bi-polar, attempted suicides, drug addiction, alcoholism. It’s difficult, sad, and impossible when we “try” to be together. I must admit that being a family (7 children) where more than 50% are dealing with serious mental health issues, saying we’re dysfunctional is an understand of epic proportions.

    I have a feeling by reading other posts that we have a great deal in common.

    • Mama – I completely get where you are coming from. These types of issues in families make us feel like we are dysfunctional but truly we are perfect. For some reason in this life we get to go through this. Why? I have no idea! But – I believe we chose our family before coming here. I keep thinking, what would I learn in this life if it was a bed of roses eh? ;)

      We probably do have alot in common. It’s nice to know there are others out there sharing some of the same issues we go through in life! Hugs Mama!

  • A very sensitive post, Monica.

  • Wow..as I sit here with tears streaming down my eyes, I am truly at a loss for words..I wish I could just reach out and hug this brother (and his brother) and say hey…I understand!

    Thanks for sharing Monica..I am going to “twitter” this!!

    Susan’s last blog post..Knee feels a little wobbly!

    • Susan thank you SO much for doing a “twitter” on this. Thank you thank you thank you. It means so much to him to get this out there. Him and his momma. ;)

      Sorry you were teary… but it’s good tears I hope.

      Thank you!!!

      Huge hugs.

  • When I read this for the first time it almost brought me to tears. Could this be what my brother has been feeling? I feel the deepness of this poem because I’m on the other side of this poem. It’s a great poem that I wish that everyone could read.

    Stephen’s last blog post..School Days

    • Stephen – what was wonderful about that poem, well one of many wonderful things, is that throughout is how much he loves his brother. We watch as you go through your ups and downs and only want to be there to assist and love you. I’m blessed to have you ;)

  • Tess:

    You’re such a beautiful person! This is so intense and touching, what a beautiful post Monica! Thank you for sharing these thoughts and the amazing poem, I’ll Twitter too in a few! *Hugs to all involved*

    @Stephen: I tried to comment a few times on your blog a while ago but it wouldn’t let me :( Just letting you know that I’m reading your posts :)

    Tess’s last blog post..Last Minute Chaos

    • Tess – thank you so much in assisting to get this out there. I’m hoping the family takes a look today at the comments. The mom looked yesterday and that was before the comments. ;)

      There is something amiss with his comments. I’ll have to check it out. I tried too! ;)

      Thanks again Tess you are wonderful to support this!

  • Tina:

    Hi Monica,

    David and I are touched beyond words at the responses. The first time I read it I cried my eyes out yet I was also encouraged by David’s love for and hope for his brother. It’s awesome to see this getting out – thank you!!!!!!!!!! :)

    Stephen please know how much you are loved by your family as is Bryan, David’s brother (& David of course). We love you guys so much and are there every step of the way with you. Though my heart breaks at the pain I see; I also see the gentleness, courage and hope inside and I am truly encouraged! I truly believe you have a bright tomorrow.

    Blessings,
    Tina

    • Tina ~ thank YOU for allowing me to post this for others to enjoy. It was a heartfelt poem and deserved a heartfelt response. I’ll let Stephen answer to you as well. ;) Keep up the good work Momma!

  • nice poem.
    i love the header/banner on your blog! great design!! did you make it yourself?

    • Hi There “PhotoShopper”! I did do the banner myself… in PhotoShop ofcourse. ;)

      I’m glad you liked the poem!

  • Lola:

    Reading that, it sounded like a brother who has come to terms with his brother’s illness. My son still struggles with his sister’s illness, yet he is steadfastly supportive and understanding. As much as a 14 year old can be.

    I’d like to re-post the poem, with a link to your original post later this week or early next week. Please email me and let me know if that is ok. lolasdiner@yahoo.com

    Lola’s last blog post..Are You Ready For Mother’s Day? What Are Your Plans?

    • Hi Lola! Thank you so much for the comment and the request to repost. Please feel free to repost as long as the reference back to the original post is intact :)

      I feel for what you are going through. I know – oh so well – it’s so difficult to feel so darned helpless.

      Hugs to you Lola and your kids!

  • I came here by way of Entrecard, I am glad I took the time to come here and read this post. I suffer from chronic depression and myofascal pain syndrome and I would have loved to have someone like this boys brother in my life who gets my illness. Depression is debilitating, you can’t just “snap out of it” like people would want you to. Will you ask the mother if it is ok for me to post this on my blog?

    This is one reason I lose myself in digital design cause there are days when I don’t feel like talking to other people and I just want to veg out. Digital design allows me to do that.

    Joe Cheray aka wildheart4vr’s last blog post..Where in the World is Wildheart??

    • Hi Joe:

      I’ve asked Tina, the mom, and she was more than happy to have you post it. We just ask that you let us know (she’d like to read your post as well) and refer back to the original post.

      I was always one of those that just didn’t get folks couldn’t “snap out of it”. Through being here for my son I’ve since learned what it truly means for someone going through this.

      Stephen (my son) just found PhotoShop and has played around with it quite a bit. He said it’s his “mind numb” time. It makes him feel good and productive! I truly think there is something to creativeness and the offset of depression.

      Thank you so much Joe for your wonderful post and wanting to send Davey’s poem out to others. He’s got a gift for letting us know exactly how he feels. It’s really a wonderful family.
      ;) Let me know when you post it. I’d love to read and comment for you as well.

      Best,

      Monica

  • Hello..
    I have stumbled your request.

    An amazing request it is.
    It is thanks to caring people like yourself that do open up many closed doors.

    It is a tough world out there with nothing but negativity and total desensitized learning. How can we expect our teens to feel safe in the world today.

    Who created this world?

    I commend you for your caring actions!
    DorothyL@womensselfesteem.com

    • Dorothy – thank you so much for stumbling this! It means alot for the family to get this out there. thank you thank you thank you – you are very correct about “desensitized” learning. I wonder if the docs truly understand what that’s doing to our teens… heck, our adults! Thank you again Dorothy.

  • Hi! I found your blog through a comment you left on Damien Riley’s blog. I, too, have a child with Bipolar Disorder. We’ve been through several suicide attempts and countless episodes and hospitalizations for self injury and eating disorders over the last several years. I believe we may have finally found a better combination of medicines and therapy programs for my daughter. It’s not great, but it’s better.

    The poem you posted as so touching. I will keep your family in my prayers.

    Jessica

    Jessica The Rock Chick’s last blog post..June Is Bustin’ Out All Over

    • Jessica – How much could I say through a comment box. How about a huge hug for you and your family. I’m there with you… Your family is in my thoughts as well. Thank you! Now I get to go check out your blog!

  • Monica I wrote about this on my blog here is the link for you to check out.

    http://wildheartsworks.com/digital-design-and-depression

    Thank you both for giving me permission to post this on my blog.

    Joe Cheray aka wildheart4vr’s last blog post..Digital Design and Depression

    • Joe – you are wonderful. The post you did was VERY well written. I sent it forward to the family. Thank you Joe and I’m going to direct Stephen to your site (my son) as he has the same love as you – digital art!~! :)

  • TMWW:

    Words can not even come close to expressing what I am feeling right now. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing this hon. I have a son with ADHD and he goes through a lot of the things that this young person wrote about and I can so relate to the feelings he is expressing.

    I need a tissue…

    TMWW’s last blog post..There is no fear worse than…

    • TMWW – it was quite amazing wasn’t it? One young man sure has a way of expressing himself! He’s quite a wonderful writer… I’ve read another of his writings and he’s very very good.

      Here, here is a tissue. A virtual one, but one none the less.

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting. He really wanted to get it out.

  • john:

    wow, how did i miss this. I have tears falling down my eyes. It really touched a nerve as my younger son sits back and sees what is going on with his older brother. They have been through so much together, that I could see him writing this himself.

    I hope you dont mind, but can i copy it and place it on my special needs blog?

    john’s last blog post..WE GOT IT!

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